“I say, you do have a heart!’
‘Sometimes,’ he replied. ‘When I have the time.’ ” – Jules Verne, Around the World in Eighty Days
Is there such a thing as being selfish with your time? Priorities in someones life can differ on how said person chooses to live; priorities can vary from being with family to having a bad habit of procrastination. People see time as valuable, like every second not spent doing something is time wasted; realistically if there wasn’t a measure of time to subject you too limited space to do things, ‘time’ wouldn’t be valuable, it’d just be there.
I find it rather cringe worthy when people expect my whole world to revolve on their time, and they get offended when you set your own schedule. Why do I have to sit ridiculed for spending time with family, or focusing on school rather than going to hangout with friends? My priorities don’t revolve around the gossip in our high-school lives and maintaining a ‘cliche’ notion of being best friends. My priorities are creating memories with my family, however meager; and focusing on myself so that I’m not agonizing in my adult life. Is that such a horrible thing?
I have always lived my life for others -though not as self-destructing now as it once was-, and there are moments in my life when I actually have the energy and the time to dedicate myself to the other things in my life that need help; if anything I am making sure that my best self is available 100% to certain aspects of my time, instead of being negligent to everything 100% of the time. It’s unrealistic for someone to dedicate themselves to everything on their plate in equal portions; people are supposed to pace themselves.
So referring back to the beginning quote, I can completely relate because when I can dedicate myself to outside things, it is whole-heartedly; but when I have things to do that are important, I will push aside the trivial things..
Because what’s selfish about knowing how to take care of yourself so you aren’t stressed? I have no idea, but others may have opinions on the matter; guess they take their time seriously.