Everyone experiences pain in their own way. A bobby-pin prick could be as painful to one person, as falling off your bed is to another. It bothers me when I see comparisons made between, “who had it worse?” and “you’ll never experience my pain.”
The matter of it is, no one can have it necessarily worse than another; you can’t compare pain when it’s unique to the individual. It could be true; they’d never feel your pain through what you experienced but that doesn’t mean that hurt won’t be inflicted upon them some other way. Some people can be more emotionally or physically damaged than others, and most people operate under the premise of, “If I can’t see it, it’s not that bad.” so emotional scaring is one most people take for granted in discussions.
Everyone trudges through their own hell; whether it be abuse, divorce, belittling, bullying, treachery, or simply your own mind and self is caving in. Can you really put those things side by side and say one inflicts more damage than another?
With all this in mind, I’d love to see such a change where we don’t belittle the things that hurt others, but rather bring the person out of its shell. Hollow out the grave which they were put into. Break apart the icicle that surrounds their life. Help give them a warm glow of something meaningful, helpful; something to remind them there is such a glorious fire of love in the world. There’s such a mix of good and evil in the world, and picking apart someone’s problems like they mean nothing just feeds into the abyss. There’s always a choice to be on the good parallel, to make problems known and to help others through it. I know which side I’m on;
“The world is a mess and I want to laugh because all I can think is how horrible and beautiful it is.” – Tahereh Mafi, Ignite Me